1. Work To Get Your Mind Focused.
Work is not a healthy coping skill if you take it too far and you avoid your breakup and your feelings completely. Your job can serve as a healthy distraction to cope with the feeling of loss. While throwing yourself completely into work is too extreme, fully engaging when you’re in the office will help take your mind off of what’s going on. Switch off your cell phone and staying away from social media while at the office. Instead, put your focus on actively participating in what’s going on at work. Devote your attention to one thing at a time versus multi-tasking, as this helps decrease anxiety and keeps your brain busy.
2. Keep Active mentally and physically
Eat right, sleep, exercise, and reach out to your friends and family. They are your best support network and they’re separate from your work life. It’s true that the majority of the venting you do about your split should happen outside the office, so call the people you know you can count on to help you stay on top of your mental health. Now’s also when you can take the time to do things you maybe didn’t have time for before, like cook yourself healthy dinners, go to the gym as much as you want, and finally get around to incorporating a quick morning meditation into your routine.
3. Confide in one or two trusted coworkers.
Don’t tell everyone. You don’t have to get into the nitty-gritty details but it’s a good idea to have an ally if you need one. Ask them to help by taking you out for short breaks so you can recharge, like grabbing a cup of coffee or taking a walk around the block, They can also be ‘spotters’ if you feel weepy or are looking disengaged.
4. Don’t be Extra.
While it’s definitely advisable to concentrate on a specific task that you can devote yourself to, tackling the biggest project you can find immediately after a breakup is a bad idea. You’ll probably just get overwhelmed, which will make you feel worse about yourself. Keeping your self-esteem high when you’re vulnerable is important, so choose projects where you know you can succeed through hard work.
5. Team Work
Interacting with other people rather than doing solo work tucked in a back office is a good way to distract yourself. If there’s a department meeting you normally would skip or you have a chance to work on a team-based project, now’s the time to go for it. When you’re engaging with others, you have less time to think about what’s going on in your personal life.
6. Create new Habits
You’re probably making new habits and routines outside of work, and you should definitely be doing it in the office, too. For example, “if your habit is to pick up the phone and text your now ex throughout the day, replace that with another habit such as taking a quick walk, drinking a bit of water, or texting a friend,” suggests King. Before you know it, the new routine will feel like second nature.
7. Keep Making plans.
If you feel super alone during your time outside of work, that emotional distress might seep into your office life. Schedule lots of things to do, from movies with friends to dinner with family, to taking a new course at a local college. Schedule yourself three or four nights a week out so that you have lots of things to look forward to.
8. Invest in a to-do list.
It’s simple tactic, but an effective one. At the end of the workday, make a list of what you need to accomplish for the following day, says King. This will guide you through your workday and help you stay laser-focused when your mind is tempted to wander. Not having to wonder what you should work on next will definitely leave you less time to think about your breakup.